Just because most of your friends are getting married, doesn’t mean you should too.
Marriage is not a race to the altar.
Having a family is not just going in the grocery and collect or select whatever you want and put it in your basket.
It is not just having a random people and screen them whoever pass to your requirements or who ever wanted to be a mom of your children.
Having a family is being prepared mentally, emotionally, physically and most of all financially.
Before you jump into a hasty decision, I can give you some things for you to consider that you shouldn’t give in to the pressure to tie the knot just yet:
1. You might think that you are already behind, you are not getting any younger anymore. But if you really want to settle, you should have build a relationship to your partner, a strong foundation. Knowing each other because entering into marriage life is way way far different from being girlfriend and boyfriend.
Relationships cannot be rushed to maturity. This is your time to nurture your relationship, work out all the kinks, and be sure that it has all the potential to just get better and better as time goes by.
2.Feed your Heart and Soul. Entering marriage life is a big responsibility to your future family. It doesn’t mean you have all the means you are now ready to provide everything to them. It is not all about money. It is also about you being a parent, on what knowledge you want to instill to your future children. Marriage comes with a hell lot of responsibilities and compromises. You should prepare first yourself what kind of life, what kind of family and what kind of home you can give to them. And remember it is not only for your wants.
3.Being physically and emotionally prepared. Being mature. How many of you can take the responsibility of a husband and kids? The house chores, the errands, cooking, the education of your child.
And thankfully! I survived that.
Being a mother, we want to attend every wants of our family. To be their mom and to be a wife. So, if you genuinely think that you can take care of everything, give it a go.
4.Consider your priorities in life before deciding on marriage. Make sure you are both on the same page about each other’s career goals as well as your personal achievements and experiences. Rushing into marriage does not guarantee that the relationship will not fall apart.
You don’t want to have regrets.
5. You want her to be pregnant, because both of you really wanted to be in marriage.
That’s not the essence of “marriage” “family”.
The are certain things you have to reflect upon before getting married. For one, compatibility of you and your partner’s characteristics and personalities. Often times, our compassion for the other half fades when he or she reacts unexpectedly in times of crises. This is the reality of a relationship. Not all the time is in bed of roses. Make sure that you and your partner knows the art of COMMUNICATION. A lot marrigae failed here. They don’t have the better communication and they don’t have same goals.
A lot to mention, but I will cut my discussion here. I will be giving you the Part 2 on my next article.
Take all the time you need to really think about it and ask yourselves if you are both physically and emotionally ready to take the next step in your relationship.
I may tap my shoulder for having an experience and it was a lesson learned for me. And I don’t want any single of you will experience and regret it soon.
So for the next time, I can say that atleast, I learned and I know now what to do.
-babslet
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