Don’t go for the most handsome man who has a lot of money unless you are hia priority.
Don’t go for the one who looks like a Greek God, but doesn’t love you nor understands you, your feelings or your emotions. Who never thinks about you and always takes you for granted.
Don’t always go for the good looking man, because looks can be deceiving.

Go for the one who can love you and understands you. The one for whom you are not just his wife,but his bestfriend, partner and a human being who has dreams and feelings too. Go for the man who will help you with with all your household chores so that you may have some free time for yourself.

A man who can understand your mood swings, your silence and can read your expressions. Go for the one that will look after your home while you are gone. Makes you the most important person in his life. Whose days start with you and end with you. For whom you are his life.

If you find a man with all these qualities hold him tight and never leave him.

babslet
♥️♥️♥️

“Learn to Walk Away”

Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work. You can’t force someone to care about you.
You can’t force someone to be loyal.
You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.

Sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without.
You got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be.
Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay.

Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what’s meant to stay broken.
You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it to you.
And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you, your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out.

TRUST ME.

Don’t put your happiness on hold for someone who isn’t holding on to you. Some chapters just have to close without closure.

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I accepted the fact that i am a single mom and its not only me now. May mga bata nang nka depende saken. That i need to be strong.

My advice to others single moms, dont pity urself or ur kid for not having a complete family or not having a dad. We have to make strong individuals who see the good in every situation. Even if it means being with ur mom only that alone is already a family.

Life’s a bitch, be a bad ass mom.

In love, mostly rejection.

– dont rush it. As a single mom I have met so many guys who took advantage of me. I blame myself for that coz i did put myself in that situation. Until i reached the point where i am no longer in search of love.

I was so desperate to complete the family I’ve always wanted. But it lead me to falling and meeting to the wrong persons.. not realizing that me and my two girls makes a complete family.

-M

I just turned 20 when I got pregnant. I just even graduated from college. I applied in Manila, i didn’t know yet that I was pregnant then,when I get hired,that’s the time I knew I was. Take note, I already broke up with him before that, and never intended to inform about my pregnancy.

I was working as a call center agent, on a night shift, on my first trimester. Could you imagine how I managed that? Like, I want this,and that, I’m craving for this and that, morning sickness, dizziness, and I am all alone. Nobody took good care of me on my first months of pregnancy, as I tried to keep it. Well, I tried to inform the father, but shit!no support!good job,right??😡😡

On the 5th month, I went home, I told everyone. (I know you already know initial reactions from parents) I did it all alone, facing everyone with a trembling soul within me, and a screaming child inside.

I am home, yet, I still feel depressed then, as nobody accepts. But of course, I have to deal with it because I did it. (I have to deal with it all alone).
I took all judgments, critics, etc..name it, i took every word of it, even if I was pregnant.yet, I never cared about anyone. I had a messy life!

Fast forward….

I gave birth. I just stayed at home like a prisoner. Breastfeeding, taking good care of my princess,….and trying to compose myself and be happy.. But I cant, it’s hard to be happy. I felt like a ball of fire was thrown on me. I gave life,yet I don’t have the life. I can’t imagine myself, single, jobless, criticized, judged…. But I still doesn’t care, I only care about my child. I wanted a nice clothes,shoes, beauty salon, i can’t provide for myself,i can’t get what I want. Strenth is the only thing that I have. I didn’t know where in this world did I get that strength to stand still and go on with life.

When she was 3 years old, i left her, went to Manila and worked. That was hard, but I am the strongest woman I know😊. My job? I was a receptionist in a Japanese restaurant with a minimum salary that cannot even give a nice meal😬. Another job hunt..i don’t get contented. I keep resigning and looking for a good one🤣

Years pass…

My daughter is now in school, 3rd grade. I am now in an International restaurant, TGI FRIDAYS, working as a General Manager, well paid, bought a car from hardwork, happy with a British boyfriend and we are living together.😊

During my downfall, i never blame anyone,not even myself. I always think that everything happens for a reason. God has been my refuge and my strength. I have seen how He moves in my life. I felt how HE pushed me up when I was so down. I lift all to God😊

To all single moms there like me, just hold on to God and be strong. It’s just a matter of mindset, if you think you can’t do it, then maybe you can’t really do it. Always keep in mind that you can do everything. Be positive in every way.

Always remember, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, EVERYTHING WILL HAPPEN IN SEASON.😊

#singleMomDiaries

–Gale

“I grew up with just one parent. Witnessing how hard it was, it never occurred to me that someday I would be going through the same fate as my mother. So when I got pregnant at a young age, I tried to brush off the idea that I will end up as a “single mom”. I was 18 and WAS very much inlove(or so I thought) with my ex.

I was so excited that we’d be having this little angel who I thought would be a reminder of our love for each other. I knew from the moment I’d give birth to her, I had to start taking life seriously and view it in a bigger picture. My mind was filled with happy ending fairytales and I was so sure that it would be a perfect family for the three of us. But I was wrong, because he wasn’t man enough to make decisions.

He had to follow whatever his mom would tell him to do. His mom told me that her husband has a heart problem and they dont want to risk his health upon knowing my situation so they decided to keep me hidden from him or any of their relatives that knew me. They had me isolated because they weren’t proud of what their son did. Know what worst, this mom even pushed him to get back with his ex-girlfriend just so he wouldn’t end up with me. I was already near my due when I found out and I was truly devastated!

Again I was 18, so naive and gullible! So there, I was left alone, hurt and crushed. I am grateful to have my family and friends who helped me during that detrimental times in my life. Oh well I’m not going to divulge further about how painful that was, how I sucked it up and how I moved on from there because it is going to be a loooong and another story. Fast forward, that’s how I get into the “single mom” scenario.

As a single mom, honestly, I lost my self-esteem. I thought I will never be the same again. I felt unwanted and unattractive. I lost the ability to make demands and choose carefully who would my next partner be. So on to my next relationship, I didnt choose a man who I liked/loved “ideally” instead I went choosing the person who accepted me and my situation.

But then I started to think, who am I fooling? I didn’t love the guy, I just loved the way he accepted me and my child. So let’s move on to the next guy, but let me choose someone I really like this time. It turned out that the person I like, though he “wanted” me too, didn’t want any part of this “instant family” dilemma! He made it clear that we shouldn’t take things seriously and I shouldn’t expect anything from him other than his “affection”. Oh wow. I said no.

From then on, I decided to just wait for the right person to come. Some came but not worthy enough to fight for. I still believed in happy endings though. I just didn’t know if I will be going to have one.”

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“Not long enough, I met this man. At first glance, I know this wasn’t the kind of man who will take things seriously(not while he was still on his partying/drinking prime).

But who cares, I wanted to loosen up a bit. So I decided to just play along with him for a week. Imagine, he was dating three other women that time but I didn’t mind. We started texting and calling each other, talking about things that didn’t really matter. We never expected how fast things eacalated from there.

The one week I told myself became a month, then a year. We became officially together. People mocked him,and made fun of him being an instant daddy. Everytime he’s drunk, he treated me so low and blamed me for every failure in his life. He thought of me as his “bad karma” for being a womanizer and taking his education for granted(took him 7 years to graduate).

He blamed me for every single thing. Again I thought, not my happy ending! He wanted me out of his life, begged me to just go away and leave him because he couldn’t. I knew he couldn’t. So many times, I wanted to give up and let him go. So many times I had to forgive myself for being so stupid. I felt how frustrated he was to fall in love with someone far from he imagined. I knew he was just confused.

And yes it was his PRIDE too.

I told him to just hang on and give it a try, listen to what his heart was telling him and ignore the rest. I was not the bad influence like his friends and family claimed me to be. I was there to pushed him all the way up. He was already flunking his grades when I met him but I helped him be the best he can be. I was the one who opened his eyes to see how difficult life was and that’s when he started appreciating every little things.

Later on he finally accepted me and my situation.

See, it took years for acceptance to play its part on our relationship. I felt that this person is worth fighting for, I felt how much he cares and loves me and I will not let other people decide who we end up with! I thought, since he already accepted me, that things will go smoothly from there. I was wrong again.

It was far from over. His family and friends didn’t like the idea of him dating a single mom and it took me three years to finally met them. I felt their disapproval right away, though they didnt tell it directly to my face, they openly tell other people that they didn’t like me for their brother. Lot of things happened and lot of hateful comments were thrown at me. Words you couldn’t even swallow. Because of my love for him, I ignored it all and aspired more to fight for what we have.

And I knew that what we have is worth fighting for. As they say, time heals all wounds. And yes it’s true, acceptance finally found its way to their hearts. We are now married with three beautiful children and now living here abroad. Even up to this day,I still hear light comments but not as bad as before. But they no longer affect us, as long as we both know what matters, and that is our love for each other and for our children.

I am now happy, peaceful and contented. We are still inlove with each other and deeply invested to our 3 amazing children. At last I can say, I found my happy ending.”

-Brave mom of three❤️

Being a parent is difficult as it is — properly raising a well-formed human being. Many people who brave the storm alone. Adjusting to single parenthood is a life-changing triumph that isn’t always an easy feat.

Motherhood in the modern world is the hardest role any of us women will play. When a mom is single, it is all on her shoulders. It is on her to raise her kids to have good manners, learn all they need to know, feed them, provide for them, keep a home clean, and pay the utility bills. Most single moms I know have to work two or more job just to keep up with basic necessities

I asked those brave mothers to share their most honest thoughts, to give some insights into their daily struggle.

And I want to share it with you guys.

“I was really scared considering I grew up with a complete family. What I did first was i filed a child support for my Son because it is his right and its his Fathers obligation.

It was really challenging in raising my son alone although I have my Mom who supported me in taking care of him.

I was totally fine until I had to potty train my son and he copied how girls do it at first I laughed but as I turned around tears started to drop, thinking it should have been his dad showing him how. So I tried my hardest in doing the things Dads do like play basketball and other Dadly stuff.

You’ll feel incomplete at times but when you see how your child treats you and other people nicely youll want to tap your own back and say good job you did well.

My biggest motivation is my son he’s my source of happiness and strength in overcoming positivity and negativity in life.

For all the single moms, dont think of this situation as a burden think of it as a challenge that will bring out the best in you as a parent.

I thought I’ll never be liked by men but I was wrong they keep on coming hahaha charot!”

-Mommy Sabie

To my Andy

When I first saw you, I didn’t bother talking to you.
When I first talk to you, I didn’t bother staring at you.
When I first stared at you, I was bothered.

Like my heart pumps so fast, that I’ve never felt in the past.
I felt something within, bones are chillin’
Missing puzzle was filled in.

You came from morning, im from the evening.
You have the Blueish eye, I got a hair dye.
You are white, I just got the height.
That makes lots of difference,not just a two sentence.
I was challenged, I was changed.
I learned to give my all, and I know that was a call.

To love you with no doubt, and be with you from north to south.

God has given me Someone, that I can finally say “You are the One”

Sincerely,

The one who treasured you so much.

“Be thankful, there’s more to life”

Sometimes in life, we suffered our downfalls.
In that, you will see the real people around you.
Who will lift you up and pull you down.
It was so disappointing that the one you expected to be there was the one who puts you down.
Twas so painful that even you have to understand them, you were ended up being betrayed and broken.

I never saw the blessing that God gave me from the time I prayed for something.
I asked him, atleast just once, I can see the “ocean” but he keeps giving me lot of opportunities being with the ocean.
I asked him just once, I can have time with my son before working and He gave me more time being with my son.
I asked him atleast I can work with positive people. And He let me meets a lot of good people and friends that became family. And I know they are still coming.

I thank God enough for giving me such people in life who will always be there for me.
I am blessed for having a sisters, who were there thru ups and downs.
I am blessed for having a friends who keeps reminding me how beautiful and worthy I am.
For meeting new friends, for knowing my pain where coming from. For the piece of advice.
I am blessed for having a very loving and caring “tita” for always pampering me those months of not being on myself.

My family. . . who always support me for all my decisions..
My son.. for reminding me that I am a good mom. And there’s more to life.
Lastly my MOM for all her wisdom, encouragement, and for listening to all my rants..
Thank you, because of you.. I’m not like them!

God really never dismayed us. He is always there and never left our side.
God has always better plans than our dreams. He has making the right way for us. He prepared our future. Let God be with us and we will never be in a wrong direction.

I have wasted my life those days crying over spilled milk.
I have wasted my life those days watering a soil that there’s no seed on it.

And still I thank God for the people who keeps being with me through all those days. Who never left my side. Who keeps on asking if I’m okay. And never gets tired of me.. even if I, myself keeps digging my own grave.. they keep on pulling me up. I just can’t imagine how wasted I am those days. (and tears falling)
While chasing the wrong one, the person I wanted to keep. I never saw the other side that I was so blessed with a lot of people who cares and loves me.

To those who are in the verge of giving up.

“LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL! WE ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE AND LET’S LIVE IT TO THE FULLEST”

Trust in the Lord and He will guide you. I thought I can’t make it. But here I am, still standing, still rising, bold and stronger!

I fought a good fight I know. And they will get what they will deserve.

I admit it, there are still times I keep on remembering things. Especially when they left you something that it’s hard to forget. But unlike before, I don’t cry a lot.

Let go of the painful things that you are suffering. I know it’s easier said than done. But time will tell. Help yourself. Keep the Faith.

You are blessed.

You are worthy.

You are loved.

-babslet

Last December, I prayed to God that I will start the year the way I wanted to. I ended the year with a broken heart and missing soul. Where nowhere to go and not knowing what to do. Where to start. Wondering where I am.

As I go back with those days. I never realized that

He gave me more than what I deserve. He gave me more than what I asked for.

I let myself stucked in an end point highway. Drowned in the center of a sea. I stand for what I believed and neglected all the red flags. And still continue walking in a thin ice, stepping on a broken glass.

I almost lost my faith in Him.

I was wrong. . . .

God already showed me the right way from the start and I chose to walked in the wrong direction. I suffered a lot fighting for the wrong one. Keeps myself bleeding and hoping he will gonna save me.

But then, until I was totally empty, nothing and helpless. I kept fighting with those flying arrows strucking me..

And I died!

The unbearable pain is turning into fire in my heart that will bring back the strength I already had. Those moments of grieving made me see true people around me. I got so disappointed that I didn’t see anymore the person whom I know they were. And they are totally different from what I knew about them. I have been told many times and they just keep proving me things that I don’t believe about them before.

They broke the wrong part of me. They broke my wings and forgot I had claws!

They took the chance when the time that I was really vulnerable and willing to give what was left to me. And I am now healing the pain and continue living the life I should have been living from the start..

Continued. . . .

Just because most of your friends are getting married, doesn’t mean you should too.

Marriage is not a race to the altar.

Having a family is not just going in the grocery and collect or select whatever you want and put it in your basket.

It is not just having a random people and screen them whoever pass to your requirements or who ever wanted to be a mom of your children.

Having a family is being prepared mentally, emotionally, physically and most of all financially.

Before you jump into a hasty decision, I can give you some things for you to consider that you shouldn’t give in to the pressure to tie the knot just yet:

1. You might think that you are already behind, you are not getting any younger anymore. But if you really want to settle, you should have build a relationship to your partner, a strong foundation. Knowing each other because entering into marriage life is way way far different from being girlfriend and boyfriend.

Relationships cannot be rushed to maturity. This is your time to nurture your relationship, work out all the kinks, and be sure that it has all the potential to just get better and better as time goes by.

2.Feed your Heart and Soul. Entering marriage life is a big responsibility to your future family. It doesn’t mean you have all the means you are now ready to provide everything to them. It is not all about money. It is also about you being a parent, on what knowledge you want to instill to your future children. Marriage comes with a hell lot of responsibilities and compromises. You should prepare first yourself what kind of life, what kind of family and what kind of home you can give to them. And remember it is not only for your wants.

3.Being physically and emotionally prepared. Being mature. How many of you can take the responsibility of a husband and kids? The house chores, the errands, cooking, the education of your child.

And thankfully! I survived that.

Being a mother, we want to attend every wants of our family. To be their mom and to be a wife. So, if you genuinely think that you can take care of everything, give it a go.

4.Consider your priorities in life before deciding on marriage. Make sure you are both on the same page about each other’s career goals as well as your personal achievements and experiences. Rushing into marriage does not guarantee that the relationship will not fall apart.

You don’t want to have regrets.

5. You want her to be pregnant, because both of you really wanted to be in marriage.

That’s not the essence of “marriage” “family”.

The are certain things you have to reflect upon before getting married. For one, compatibility of you and your partner’s characteristics and personalities. Often times, our compassion for the other half fades when he or she reacts unexpectedly in times of crises. This is the reality of a relationship. Not all the time is in bed of roses. Make sure that you and your partner knows the art of COMMUNICATION. A lot marrigae failed here. They don’t have the better communication and they don’t have same goals.

A lot to mention, but I will cut my discussion here. I will be giving you the Part 2 on my next article.

Take all the time you need to really think about it and ask yourselves if you are both physically and emotionally ready to take the next step in your relationship.

I may tap my shoulder for having an experience and it was a lesson learned for me. And I don’t want any single of you will experience and regret it soon.

So for the next time, I can say that atleast, I learned and I know now what to do.

-babslet